Pros and Cons of the Different Parenting Styles
• Tiger Moms: Nothing is ever good enough.
• Helicopter Parents: Involved in every aspects of the child’s life.
• Snowplough Parents: The child faces no problems in life.
• Free Range Parents: Let children be children.
• Gentle Parents: Freedom with limitations.
These are the kiasu authoritarian parents who demands total obedience and perfection from their children. A score of 98 in the exams is not good enough. The child is expected to excel in every aspect of life because they believe that the second place is the first loser. More common in Asian culture, this term is usually attached to mothers. The term was popularised by Amy Chua in the book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother.
These are the kaypoh parents that are over-involved in every aspect of their child’s life, frequently calling the teachers to check on their child’s behavior in school. This show of concern for their child never seem to wane and is most evident when the son of Helicopter Parents goes to the army. Psychologist Foster Cline and education consultant Jim Fay coined the term Helicopter Parenting in 1990 in their book Parenting with Love and Logic.
“I got this” is probably the most common phase that the child hears from his kiasi parents. By dealing with the child’s problems for him or her, snowplough parents may think their child will be inoculated against failing. These parents would stay up late into the night to help their kid with his art homework because the child was feeling a tad sleepy. The term started surfacing in 2015, after former high school teacher David McCullough published the book titled You Are Not Special.
Free Range Parents
These are the type of parenting most commonly found in the 70s. The children are given the freedom to explore and a good wack on the head if they do something wrong. This apparently bo chup style of parenting believes that a child should be allowed to learn by experience – Take a fall, scuff your knee, and walk it off. The term was made famous by blogger and author Lenore Skenazy who wrote the book Free‑Range Kids, Giving Our Children the Freedom We Had Without Going Nuts.
Gentle Parents believe that by providing strong emotional and close physical support, a child will grow up feeling positive about himself or herself and will be better at handling relationships when they grow up. Empathy and human interaction ranks higher in this sort of parenting style than good academic results. The term was popularised by a book titled The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby From Birth to Age Two written by the Sears family in 1993.
Written by Eugene Tay, founder of Brain & Butter and Monsters Under the Bed.
When Eugene was a young boy, he wanted to be an astronaut. When that didn't take off, he decided that he was going to be like Indiana Jones and explore the world as an archaeologist. Eventually, he figured out how he can do both. That's when he became a writer.